SOME CHILDREN ARE BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED BY THEIR FATHERS!

ON MAY 4, 2019 IN THE BASQUE NEWS WE HEARD THAT A FATHER HAD BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSING HIS DAUGHTER FOR 6 YEARS. SHE IS 12 AND HE STARTED ABUSING HER WHEN SHE WAS 6. WHY DIDN´ T THEY SHOW US ANY PHOTOS OF HIM? THEY ONLY TOLD US HE WAS 52 YEARS OLD AND THAT HE HAD BEEN PUT IN PRISON. HOWEVER, WE DO NOT KNOW HIS NAME NOR WHERE HE IS FROM. THE THING IS THAT WHEN THE MEDIA WANTS TO GIVE US INFORMATION ABOUT A PIECE OF NEWS, EVEN IF IT IS WAY MUCH LESS IMPORTANT THAN THIS ONE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT, THEY GIVE IT TO US AND CONTINUE FOCUSING ON IT FOR SO LONG WE KIND OF WANT TO SWITCH CHANNELS, SINCE IT IS FAR TOO MUCH. YOU KNOW WHICH CHANNEL I AM TALKING ABOUT. SOMETIMES THEY HIGHLIGHT A PIECE OF NEWS OVER AND OVER AGAIN SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY WANT PEOPLE TO HEAR A SPECIFIC NAME SO THAT PEOPLE CAN THINK OF OTHER PEOPLE WITH THE SAME NAME IN THE SAME WAY. YES MY BROTHERS, AND ALL THIS BECAUSE CMTGS´ MANEUVERS ARE REALLY SUBTLE AND MALICIOUS, AND THEY TURN TO THE MOST FAR-FETCHED WAYS YOU CAN IMAGINE!

MAY 5, 2019, I WAS GOING FOR A WALK WHEN I SAW A WOMAN ON A BIKE FOLLOWED BY A BIG MAN ON ANOTHER BIKE, AND A SMALL BOY CRYING ON ANOTHER BIKE. THAT SMALL BOY WAS ABOUT 6 YEARS OLD AND WAS CRYING IN SUCH A WAY ONE WOULD THINK HIS LIFE WAS NOT HAPPY WHATSOEVER. HIS CONTINUOUS CRIES WERE ONES OF SOMEONE TRAPPED IN SUCH PAIN AND FEAR ONE WOULD THINK HE WAS NOT ABLE TO MANAGE TO STOP IT.

LET´S IMAGINE THAT SMALL BOY HAD BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED BY HIS FATHER, BY THE ONE ON THE BIKE NEXT TO HIM. LET´S IMAGINE THAT SAME BOY´S CONTINUOUS DESPERATE CRIES WERE TELLING US ALL, SPECIALLY HIS MOTHER, HE NEEDED SOMEONE TO REALIZE SOMEONE HAD DONE SOMETHING TERRIBLE TO HIM. LET´S IMAGINE THAT TERRIBLE SITUATION HAPPENED AND IS STILL HAPPENING TO THOUSANDS OF BABIES AND CHILDREN ALL OVER THE WORLD. WHAT CAN WE DO? BEING THINGS AS THEY ARE IT´S NECESSARY FOR CHILDREN TO BE SHOWN BY SOMEONE WAYS TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES IF SOMETHING LIKE A SEXUAL ABUSE HAPPENS TO THEM.

ABOUT FIFTEEN DAYS AGO A WOMAN WENT TO A KINDERGARTEN IN ORDER TO PICK UP HER SMALL BOY, WHO WAS ABOUT 3 YEARS OLD. AFTER PICKING HIM UP THE MOMENT HIS MOTHER WAS GOING TO PUT HIM IN THE CAR HE STARTED CRYING LIKE MAD. LET´S IMAGINE HE HAD BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED BY HIS FATHER AND WAS SO AFRAID TO GO HOME, TO BE AROUND HIS ABUSER, THAT HE STARTED CRYING LIKE CRAZY, AND HIS MOTHER THOUGHT HE WAS CRYING JUST FOR NO REASON. ONE THING IS FOR SURE, CHILDREN DO NOT CRY LIKE CRAZY FOR NO REASON. THERE IS ALWAYS A REASON, A REALLY IMPORTANT REASON.

ABOUT TWO AND A HALF MONTHS AGO THERE WAS A MAN IN HIS LATE 40S AND A SMALL GIRL CRYING LIKE CRAZY, LYING ON THE PAVEMENT. SHE WAS DESPERATELY CRYING, NOT WANTING TO GET UP, NOR WALK LIKE HER FATHER WANTED HER TO, SINCE HE WAS STANDING LOOKING AT HER OR SOMEWHERE. LET´S IMAGINE THAT FATHER HAD BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSING HIS DAUGHTER, THAT IS THAT SMALL GIRL, WHO WAS ABOUT 4 YEARS OLD.

THE SITUATION IS SUCH IT IS MORE THAN NECESSARY TO TALK TO CHILDREN AND SHOW THEM WHAT WORDS TO SAY, IN A VERY SIMPLE WAY, IN CASE SOME KIND OF SEXUAL ABUSE IS TAKING PLACE AND THEY ARE BEING VICTIMS WITHOUT KNOWING IT.

WHEN SOMEONE SEES SUCH TERRIBLE SITUATIONS AND SEES A MOTHER WHO DOES NOT SEE WHAT HER CHILD IS GOING THROUGH WHILE WE PERFECTLY HEAR HIS/HER DESPERATE CRIES TELLING US THAT CHILD´S SOUL IS IN NEED OF HELP IT IS OUR DUTY TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

CHILDREN WHO GO THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE SEXUAL ABUSE CANNOT COPE WITH IT SINCE SUCH ABUSE GOES OVER THE LIMIT. THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT´S GOING ON NOR DO THEY HAVE THE VOCABULARY TO EXPRESS IT, WHICH PUTS THEM IN A TERRIBLE DEFENSELESS SITUATION. THE EMOTIONAL CONSEQUENCES ON THOSE CHILDREN ARE SO SEVERE THAT SUCH ABUSES URGE US ALL TO TALK AND SHOW CHILDREN IN A SIMPLE PRACTICAL WAY WHAT THEY NEED TO KNOW IN ORDER TO SURVIVE SEXUAL ABUSERS DRESSED IN DISGUISE.

 

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Julia Martinez

Julia Martínez was born in The Basque Country, Spain in 1965. She went to Las Carmelitas School in Santurtzi, where she completed her elementary and secondary education, except her senior year. She decided to go to the United States as an exchange student for her senior year. She lived with an American family in California for that school year. After coming back from the US she started her undergraduate studies at Deusto University. By this time she had already lived in Santurtzi for seventeen years. It was 1983 when she and her family moved to Getxo. At Deusto University she studied English Linguistics for five years. She was twenty three years old when she got her undergraduate degree. She spent about three months during three different summers in England. During two of those summers she was an exchange student, and another summer she was working as an au pair, living with an English family. She also spent about two months during two different summers in Dublin. She was an exchange student living with an Irish family for a month, and another summer she was living in a student residence. In 1988 she was granted a scholarship to do her graduate studies at Indiana University, in the U.S..She completed a double master on English and Spanish Applied Linguistics in 1990. During that year and a half that she was studying over there she was also working as an Associate Professor giving Spanish classes at Indiana University. After working on the double master, She decided to go back to Spain and work as an English teacher at an English school in Galdakao for a year. At the same time that she was working, she was studying in order to sit a competitive exam. She went to Madrid to take it, and got the job she wanted. She became a civil servant, and she started working as an English teacher at a high school in 1991. By the year 2004 she had already been teaching for thirteen years in four different high schools, giving lessons to secondary students. In 2004 she decided to quit teaching and start painting as a self-made painter. She has got thirty six original oil paintings on canvas, and all of them share bright, lively, warm colors which invite you to smile and chill out. You see them all together and you see a real celebration of life, of what life should be, of happiness and love. Apart from painting, she is very keen on music and photography. About music, it must be said that she was very much into it during some years in the past, specially when she was taking Classical and electric guitar lessons and writing her own songs. She has got four demos with songs sung, both in English and Spanish. She performed as a singer in some places in the year 2000 after recording all her original songs. She is a hard-working person and a very good listener. She is one of those really positive people that finds solutions to almost anything you can think of. She enjoys creative work, either in painting, photography, dancing, singing, writing or cooking. She also enjoys herself with those little things in life like going out for a stroll in the country, listening to all kinds of music, good company, a good book, helping people in need, taking a nap, or just watching a funny movie. She is really interested in the protection of animals rights.

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